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Mind Phantom

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There are those times when somebody asks me to do something i.e do a trick - read a mind and I normally will do something.

But, there are those times when I feel like I am put on the spot, or performing something just doesn't feel right. What do you say to those that you don't feel like performing for, without hurting their feelings ?

Doctors and Musicians don't perform on the spot.

Without hurting there feelings, what do you say to those when you don't feel like performing for them ?

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No. Magic is entertainment, and if I am not in the right mood to properly entertain, to commit myself to the audience, even an audience of one, I simply say no. Not right now. I'd love to later, but not now.    
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I was taught in sales school not to tell the customer "No", the word "no" brings up all kinds of thoughts and feelings that's negative.

There has got to be a nicer/better way to tell the participant "no" in a classy kind of way.

I just haven't figured out a way how to do that.

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I must be a total addict/attention whore. I've never felt inclined to say no. 
I'm one of those weirdos who almost always takes a deck of cards wherever I go.

Maybe it's because I truly utilize magic as a means of meeting people.

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Rudy, nah, that's admirable. At least in my estimation. There are simply times that I am not in the mood to perform and I would rather say no than take the chance of performing poorly.

Logan, regardless of what they teach in sales class, during my on-the-job training as a dad I learned that no is sometimes the right answer!

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I generally try to find a way to do a quick trick when asked. But if the conditions seem poor, I would likely suggest that another time would be better. 

It's worth wondering what a musician or actor would do if asked to perform? Would the actor go into some soliloquy from a Shakespearean play? Would the musician whip out a harmonica and play a tune? How about a mime? It seems that magic is the only performing art in which people would ask for a show right then and there.

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I always have a deck on me, and usually, a card in my shoe, and rarely get lucky enough to have someone ask me to do a trick. The only time I say no is if I'm at work or at another event where the focus should be on someone else. But to parrot a previous post, I am willing to admit that I do magic because I want attention.

Regarding the music thing, I can't speak for all musicians, but the music scene where I came up was made up of lots of Friday and Saturday after parties of people passing around community guitars, writing spur of the moment songs, playing quick covers, and some secret songs. And it was like fight club; if it was your first time, you had to play. All of those guys treated music like a lot of you treat magic; always a few minutes of entertainment ready to go, assuming the time is right.
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'Maybe later'.
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I honestly don't understand why this question comes up so frequently or why it even exists in the first place. What do I say?  I say no.  Simple.  Direct.  I've never had anyone take offense to it. There is such a thing as saying no in a kind and polite manner.  I sometimes feel that society in general has lost a certain level of social skills in dealing with these type of situations. I can understand why saying no in sales can be detrimental but we're talking about a casual social situation.  If you're not prepared to do anything then you shouldn't feel that being a magician means we're obliged to meet every request.
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I imagine it must be even worse for stand up comedians.
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Originally Posted by Chi Han Yeo
I imagine it must be even worse for stand up comedians.


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For me it really depends on the situation.
If it determines whether I get a gig, I'll do something regardless. All I need is a pen and something to write on and I'm golden.
Same for if someone seems genuinely excited to see some magic I'll do something for them.

If it's just someone trying to prove that they can't be fooled, I'll just say no.

I'm just thinking about the question posed here. What do you say to people that want you to perform on the spot and we're coming up with answers that either let them down easy or shut them down.

This is the opposite end of the spectrum where we approach people and ask them Would you like to see some magic except that they don't have any forum to brainstorm on how to say no.
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